About Jen (she/they)
I’ve known that I’m queer and polyamorous since I was 8 years old.
What I didn’t know was how to exist in the world in a way that embraced and celebrated those identities. So I did what’s only natural in trying to stay connected, be accepted, and fit in- I worked to meet the expectations of everyone around me, at the expense of my sense of self.
Finding my way back to myself has been a journey of many years, and it is now my greatest joy to support others finding their way to fully embracing all parts of themselves, without sacrificing deep connections to others.
Throughout my life, I’ve been driven to understand How Humans Work.
My many and seemingly disparate interests have all been about exploring aspects of the experience of being human.
As a teen, I became involved in social justice and community organizing movements. This work continues in my life today and informs my understanding and appreciation of the structural and historical layers of collective trauma and injustice.
My first career was in Massage Therapy in which I primarily worked with deeply held chronic pain patterns. Much of this hands on work involved creating safety and space to integrate stress and trauma held in the body. From this work, I gained an understanding of biology and pathology, and how physical experiences influence and are influenced by emotional and mental experiences. Today, I bring this somatic understanding of how the body tries to help and the stories it keeps into working with clients to integrate their life experiences.
After a few relationships went poorly in my early 20’s, I decided that maybe the messages I grew up with were correct- that I could only find long term, sustainable partnership through monogamy. For 15 years, I passed as heterosexual and monogamous, and found myself struggling with depression and anxiety, feeling like I was on autopilot, trying to get through each day, to meet the expectations around me. I felt lost, without anything that really fulfilled me or gave my life a sense of purpose.
In 2015, I gave birth to a wonderful, challenging, sensitive, neurodiverse child who called me into healing and growth. One of the first places I found compassion and acceptance was the birthing and breast/chestfeeding communities. I felt called to support other new parents with such a deep need to be seen and supported without judgment. Through learning to understand my child and be the parent he needed me to be, I began to uncover the parts of myself that were not being seen and validated. I began to build a community that embodied unconditional acceptance, compassion, and welcomed all of me. From there, I began to unpack generations of trauma and unhealthy relationship patterns.
When my son was 2, I found the work of Rebecca Thompson Hitt and The Consciously Parenting Project. The work of healing and then existing in the world as my whole self was (and still is!) hard and scary at times. But the tools and resilience of my inner self along with the healthy supportive relationships in my life, give me grounding and help me return to the revolutionary work of being fully embodied in the world so that I can support all parts of my important people (especially my children!) when it gets hard and scary. From this foundation of support and community, I am able to make the unconventional choices that fit myself and my people, and experience deep joy, fulfillment, and a driving purpose to make the world a better place in which all of us are able to thrive as our truest, weirdest, most wonderful selves.
In 2019, I completed a 2 year Holistic Family Consultant Certification Program followed by 1 year of practical study with Rebecca. This program deepened my skills in holding a safe, compassionate space for healing and growth as well as my ability to skillfully see and reflect the things that a client may not be consciously aware of.
I have been professionally supporting conscious parents since 2020. It is especially my pleasure to support parents going on their own journey of healing and self discovery after discovering a child’s queer, trans, or neurodiverse identity.
In my return to polyamory since 2022, I’ve found so much joy, community, and fulfilling relationships. However, I’ve also seen and navigated the pitfalls that come with unlearning mononormativity, especially alongside relational trauma and attachment wounds. I’ve especially seen the ways that polyamorous parents struggle to fully access both the parenting and polyamory communities and often struggle in isolation.
Today I hold a foundational belief that every person is doing their best and knows what is best for them, that feeling heard, seen, understood, and compassionately held allows each person to find the best way forward for them. I bring compassion, curiosity, and faith in your innate value into my holistic and integrative approach to support growth and healing. I take a joyful, playful, and fundamentally hopeful lens in each session, in exploring the difficult or hidden aspects of being human.
Bringing together many facets of the human experience is what makes my work unique and allows for a really holistic understanding of who you are and what you need for healing and growth. I hold a deep passion for enacting structural change that allows more space for the beautiful diversity of humanity to flourish.
In addition to offering private sessions, I lead small group healing spaces, a free non-monogamous parenting group, a community for parents of gender queer kids, and occasionally workshops or special events.
Together, let’s uncover all the layers of your experience that are holding you back from living authentically and connecting with yourself and others joyfully. You deserve to live a life that fits you uniquely, deeply rooted in and aligned with the fullness of who you are.